Traumas Keep Coming Back

                                                                  September 6, 2025

To My Future Husband,


I never thought I would face this kind of pain again, learning about the past mistakes of the man I love now. Knowing he cheated before broke something inside me. Not because I was the one betrayed, but because the thought of history repeating itself haunts me. It woke up old wounds, old fears, old tears I thought I had already buried.


But in the middle of my shaking hands and restless thoughts, I prayed. I asked God to remind me that His love story for me is not built on fear, but on faith. That my future is not chained to someone else’s past.

So to you, my future husband, if it is him, then I pray he has truly learned, truly changed, and truly understood what it means to love with faithfulness. I pray that God has molded him into a man who values loyalty more than temptation, and love more than fleeting desires.


And if you are someone else, then I will wait. Because I know God will not allow my heart to be broken over and over without purpose. He is preparing me for a love that is safe, faithful, and pure, a love that reflects Christ Himself.

I am not blind to red flags, but I also believe in redemption. I am not ignoring the pain, but I am choosing to forgive where God asks me to forgive. If you are truly the man He has destined for me, then I believe you will never make me beg to be loved, never make me question my worth, and never make me compete for your loyalty.


I’m still here, hopeful, not because of man’s promises, but because of God’s.

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